{"id":15412,"date":"2024-07-28T10:44:26","date_gmt":"2024-07-28T10:44:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/newsx48.info\/?p=15412"},"modified":"2024-07-28T10:44:26","modified_gmt":"2024-07-28T10:44:26","slug":"15412","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/newsx48.info\/?p=15412","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Our two realities finally clashed when I asked him for a divorce on our thirtieth wedding anniversary, two weeks after our third and youngest child left home.<\/p>\n<div class=\"autors-widget\">\n<div>\n<div>\n<div id=\"autors-container-0\"><iframe id=\"master-1\" title=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/syndicatedsearch.goog\/afs\/ads?psid=5134551505&amp;channel=AutoRsVariant&amp;cx=r-54c6878183f8b5852&amp;fexp=21404%2C17300003%2C17301431%2C17301432%2C17301436%2C17301511%2C17301516%2C17301266&amp;client=pub-3793323828586598&amp;r=m&amp;sct=ID%3De9c1490ecdd5782a%3AT%3D1709456036%3ART%3D1709456036%3AS%3DALNI_Mb75Hy7nD5ZUbK9lakGNhy8Eqeayw&amp;sc_status=6&amp;hl=en&amp;rpbu=http%3A%2F%2Fgoogle.com&amp;rpqp=q&amp;type=3&amp;rs_tt=c&amp;oe=UTF-8&amp;ie=UTF-8&amp;format=r5&amp;nocache=311722163420920&amp;num=0&amp;output=afd_ads&amp;domain_name=bilgininadresi.net&amp;v=3&amp;bsl=10&amp;pac=0&amp;u_his=3&amp;u_tz=120&amp;dt=1722163420922&amp;u_w=1024&amp;u_h=768&amp;biw=1258&amp;bih=801&amp;psw=1259&amp;psh=8865&amp;frm=0&amp;uio=-&amp;cont=autors-container-0&amp;drt=0&amp;jsid=csa&amp;nfp=1&amp;jsv=652824369&amp;rurl=https%3A%2F%2Fbilgininadresi.net%2F2024%2F05%2F24%2Fwoman-asks-husband-of-30-years-for-divorce-even-though-hed-done-nothing-2%2F&amp;referer=https%3A%2F%2Fbilgininadresi.net%2F%3Fs%3DMy%2Bhusband%2Bwas%2Bshocked%2Band%2Bhurt%2Bwhen%2BI%2Basked%2Bfor%2Ba%2Bdivorce%2Bafter%2Bthirty%2Byears%2Bof%2Bmarriage%26fbclid%3DIwY2xjawETABpleHRuA2FlbQIxMAABHTyF9gjySAP4WazZu907IbG9kg_O4NeRIl0_0L3nXt5kfSEutQNiemsyDA_aem_wBYUXV8Sv8gsKHmfrF0xrA\" name=\"{&quot;name&quot;:&quot;master-1&quot;,&quot;master-1&quot;:{&quot;container&quot;:&quot;autors-container-0&quot;,&quot;styleId&quot;:&quot;5134551505&quot;,&quot;channel&quot;:&quot;AutoRsVariant&quot;,&quot;cx&quot;:&quot;r-54c6878183f8b5852&quot;,&quot;domainName&quot;:&quot;bilgininadresi.net&quot;,&quot;fexp&quot;:&quot;21404,17300003,17301431,17301432,17301436,17301511,17301516,17301266&quot;,&quot;masterNumber&quot;:1,&quot;number&quot;:0,&quot;pubId&quot;:&quot;pub-3793323828586598&quot;,&quot;role&quot;:&quot;m&quot;,&quot;sct&quot;:&quot;ID=e9c1490ecdd5782a:T=1709456036:RT=1709456036:S=ALNI_Mb75Hy7nD5ZUbK9lakGNhy8Eqeayw&quot;,&quot;sc_status&quot;:6,&quot;hl&quot;:&quot;en&quot;,&quot;resultsPageBaseUrl&quot;:&quot;http:\/\/google.com&quot;,&quot;columns&quot;:1,&quot;horizontalAlignment&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;resultsPageQueryParam&quot;:&quot;q&quot;,&quot;relatedSearchUseResultCallback&quot;:true,&quot;ie&quot;:&quot;UTF-8&quot;,&quot;maxTop&quot;:0,&quot;minTop&quot;:0,&quot;oe&quot;:&quot;UTF-8&quot;,&quot;relatedSearches&quot;:5,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;relatedsearch&quot;,&quot;linkTarget&quot;:&quot;_blank&quot;,&quot;fontSizeTitle&quot;:18,&quot;fontSizeAttribution&quot;:13,&quot;relatedSearchTargeting&quot;:&quot;content&quot;}}\" width=\"100%\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" data-observe=\"1\" data-lle=\"1\" data-mce-fragment=\"1\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"code-block code-block-2\"><ins class=\"adsbygoogle\" data-ad-layout=\"in-article\" data-ad-format=\"fluid\" data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-3793323828586598\" data-ad-slot=\"5091870534\" data-adsbygoogle-status=\"done\" data-ad-status=\"unfilled\"><\/p>\n<div id=\"aswift_3_host\"><\/div>\n<p><\/ins><\/div>\n<p>He stood there staring at me in absolute shock. \u201cWhat?\u201d he asked. \u201cWho\u2019s getting a divorce?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYou,\u201d I told him. \u201cOr rather, I am.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Zack sat down heavily, still staring. \u201cYou\u2019re divorcing me?\u201d<\/p>\n<div class=\"code-block code-block-2\"><ins class=\"adsbygoogle\" data-ad-layout=\"in-article\" data-ad-format=\"fluid\" data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-3793323828586598\" data-ad-slot=\"5091870534\" data-adsbygoogle-status=\"done\" data-ad-status=\"filled\"><\/p>\n<div id=\"aswift_4_host\"><\/div>\n<p><\/ins><\/div>\n<p>\u201cYes,\u201d I repeated. \u201cI\u2019m divorcing you.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBut why?\u201d he cried, and I was surprised to see tears in his eyes. \u201cI love you, Kelly, I always have, and I never cheated on you, not ever!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThat\u2019s true,\u201d I said. \u201cYou never cheated and you never drank or gambled.\u201d<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>One of the most important things in a relationship is to LISTEN to what the other person is really saying.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>\u201cBut\u2026Then why?\u201d he asked angrily. \u201cI did NOTHING and you\u2019re divorcing me? Are you having an affair?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNO!\u201d I cried. \u201cI\u2019m not! Do you want to know why I\u2019m leaving you, Zack? I\u2019ll tell you\u2026\u201d I walked right up to him and looked him in the eyes.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI\u2019m leaving you because you did NOTHING! When the children came and I was holding a full-time job and coming home to do the housework alone, you did NOTHING.<\/p>\n<div class=\"autors-widget\">\n<div>\n<div>\n<div id=\"autors-container-0\"><iframe id=\"master-1\" title=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/syndicatedsearch.goog\/afs\/ads?psid=5134551505&amp;channel=AutoRsVariant&amp;cx=r-54c6878183f8b5852&amp;fexp=21404%2C17300003%2C17301431%2C17301432%2C17301436%2C17301511%2C17301516%2C17301266&amp;client=pub-3793323828586598&amp;r=m&amp;sct=ID%3De9c1490ecdd5782a%3AT%3D1709456036%3ART%3D1709456036%3AS%3DALNI_Mb75Hy7nD5ZUbK9lakGNhy8Eqeayw&amp;sc_status=6&amp;hl=en&amp;rpbu=http%3A%2F%2Fgoogle.com&amp;rpqp=q&amp;type=3&amp;rs_tt=c&amp;oe=UTF-8&amp;ie=UTF-8&amp;format=r5&amp;nocache=8901722163436613&amp;num=0&amp;output=afd_ads&amp;domain_name=bilgininadresi.net&amp;v=3&amp;bsl=10&amp;pac=0&amp;u_his=5&amp;u_tz=120&amp;dt=1722163436613&amp;u_w=1024&amp;u_h=768&amp;biw=1258&amp;bih=801&amp;psw=1259&amp;psh=9635&amp;frm=0&amp;uio=-&amp;cont=autors-container-0&amp;drt=0&amp;jsid=csa&amp;nfp=1&amp;jsv=652824369&amp;rurl=https%3A%2F%2Fbilgininadresi.net%2F2024%2F05%2F24%2Fwoman-asks-husband-of-30-years-for-divorce-even-though-hed-done-nothing%2F&amp;referer=https%3A%2F%2Fbilgininadresi.net%2F2024%2F05%2F24%2Fwoman-asks-husband-of-30-years-for-divorce-even-though-hed-done-nothing-2%2F\" name=\"{&quot;name&quot;:&quot;master-1&quot;,&quot;master-1&quot;:{&quot;container&quot;:&quot;autors-container-0&quot;,&quot;styleId&quot;:&quot;5134551505&quot;,&quot;channel&quot;:&quot;AutoRsVariant&quot;,&quot;cx&quot;:&quot;r-54c6878183f8b5852&quot;,&quot;domainName&quot;:&quot;bilgininadresi.net&quot;,&quot;fexp&quot;:&quot;21404,17300003,17301431,17301432,17301436,17301511,17301516,17301266&quot;,&quot;masterNumber&quot;:1,&quot;number&quot;:0,&quot;pubId&quot;:&quot;pub-3793323828586598&quot;,&quot;role&quot;:&quot;m&quot;,&quot;sct&quot;:&quot;ID=e9c1490ecdd5782a:T=1709456036:RT=1709456036:S=ALNI_Mb75Hy7nD5ZUbK9lakGNhy8Eqeayw&quot;,&quot;sc_status&quot;:6,&quot;hl&quot;:&quot;en&quot;,&quot;resultsPageBaseUrl&quot;:&quot;http:\/\/google.com&quot;,&quot;columns&quot;:1,&quot;horizontalAlignment&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;resultsPageQueryParam&quot;:&quot;q&quot;,&quot;relatedSearchUseResultCallback&quot;:true,&quot;ie&quot;:&quot;UTF-8&quot;,&quot;maxTop&quot;:0,&quot;minTop&quot;:0,&quot;oe&quot;:&quot;UTF-8&quot;,&quot;relatedSearches&quot;:5,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;relatedsearch&quot;,&quot;linkTarget&quot;:&quot;_blank&quot;,&quot;fontSizeTitle&quot;:18,&quot;fontSizeAttribution&quot;:13,&quot;relatedSearchTargeting&quot;:&quot;content&quot;}}\" width=\"100%\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" data-observe=\"1\" data-lle=\"1\" data-mce-fragment=\"1\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"code-block code-block-2\"><ins class=\"adsbygoogle\" data-ad-layout=\"in-article\" data-ad-format=\"fluid\" data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-3793323828586598\" data-ad-slot=\"5091870534\" data-adsbygoogle-status=\"done\" data-ad-status=\"unfilled\"><\/p>\n<div id=\"aswift_3_host\"><\/div>\n<p><\/ins><\/div>\n<p>\u201cWhen I was so ill I could barely get out of bed, you did NOTHING; when my father died and I was devastated by grief, you did NOTHING; when I went through menopause and had depression, you did NOTHING.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhen I was so sad that our two oldest children left home, you did NOTHING. You never brought me a flower just to say you loved me, you never stood up for me when your mother was so mean to me.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThat time I twisted my ankle and I could barely walk, I had to get out of bed at 6:00 am and fix breakfast \u2014 and you lay there snoring and did NOTHING. Nothing seems to be what you do best!\u201d<\/p>\n<div class=\"code-block code-block-2\"><ins class=\"adsbygoogle\" data-ad-layout=\"in-article\" data-ad-format=\"fluid\" data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-3793323828586598\" data-ad-slot=\"5091870534\" data-adsbygoogle-status=\"done\" data-ad-status=\"unfilled\"><\/p>\n<div id=\"aswift_4_host\"><\/div>\n<p><\/ins><\/div>\n<p>\u201cYou never told me!\u201d Zack cried with an injured look on his face.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI told you every time I asked for your help,\u201d I said. \u201cEvery time I snuggled up for a kiss and you were more interested in what was on TV. I told you when I begged for your love and attention, for romance.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI told you five years ago when I asked you to go to couples therapy with me and you refused because there was NOTHING wrong and you were happy.\u201d<\/p>\n<div class=\"code-block code-block-2\"><ins class=\"adsbygoogle\" data-ad-layout=\"in-article\" data-ad-format=\"fluid\" data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-3793323828586598\" data-ad-slot=\"5091870534\" data-adsbygoogle-status=\"done\" data-ad-status=\"unfilled\"><\/p>\n<div id=\"aswift_5_host\"><\/div>\n<p><\/ins><\/div>\n<p>\u201cWe can go now,\u201d Zack said hopefully. \u201cSet up the appointment and I\u2019ll come!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cOf course, now that you see me determined to leave,\u201d I commented. \u201cBut you don\u2019t actually care enough to go look for a therapist and set up the appointment yourself.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cPlease, Kelly,\u201d Zack begged. \u201cPlease give me a chance to make you happy!\u201d<\/p>\n<div class=\"code-block code-block-2\"><ins class=\"adsbygoogle\" data-ad-layout=\"in-article\" data-ad-format=\"fluid\" data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-3793323828586598\" data-ad-slot=\"5091870534\" data-adsbygoogle-status=\"done\" data-ad-status=\"unfilled\"><\/p>\n<div id=\"aswift_6_host\"><\/div>\n<p><\/ins><\/div>\n<p>I stared at him and a deep sadness welled up in my heart. I shook my head. \u201cAt any time in the last thirty years, I would have given anything to hear you say those words.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNow I look at you and all I feel is sadness \u2014 and pity. You\u2019ve never bothered to make me happy before Zack, and honestly, I\u2019m not wasting one more day of my life on you.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I moved out the next day and found myself a pretty little apartment in Venice Beach and started a new life. I sold my car and started cycling everywhere even to work.<\/p>\n<p>My children were shocked, especially my oldest daughter Amy who told me her father was devastated and seeing a therapist for depression. I was sorry for him, but my own happiness was finally my priority.<\/p>\n<p>I took up dancing, made new friends, threw out the dowdy old wardrobe that I\u2019d bought to please Zack, and changed my hair. My children were stunned and said I looked twenty years younger.<\/p>\n<p>I felt younger and pretty, and energetic, and hopeful. A year later, I met Sam, a sweet, considerate man who spoils me, lavishes care and attention on me, and wants to marry me.<\/p>\n<p>I guess I\u2019m still a bit nervous about taking the big step again, but we\u2019ve set a date for the summer. I couldn\u2019t have fallen for a nicer man, and I am finally learning what real love is all about.<\/p>\n<p>As for Zack, I hear he is now dating a much younger woman who orders him around like a slave, has him hopping to her every whim, and spends his hard-earned money like water. I guess we all get what we deserve!<\/p>\n<p><strong>What can we learn from this story?<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>What we do is just as important as what we don\u2019t do.<\/strong>\u00a0Zack didn\u2019t cheat, but he also didn\u2019t offer Kelly the love and support she needed.<\/li>\n<li><strong>One of the most important things in a relationship is to LISTEN<\/strong>\u00a0to what the other person is really saying and to consider their needs and wishes as important as your own \u2014 something Zack didn\u2019t do until it was too late.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Share this story with your friends. It might brighten their day and inspire them.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If you enjoyed this story, you might like\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/news.amomama.com\/276623-i-called-police-a-beggar-who-stalked-me.html\">this one<\/a>\u00a0about a man who complains about a homeless vagrant, until he realizes who he is.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div class=\"code-block code-block-2\"><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Our two realities finally clashed when I asked him for a divorce on our thirtieth wedding anniversary, two weeks after our third and youngest child left home. He stood there staring at me in absolute shock. \u201cWhat?\u201d he asked. \u201cWho\u2019s getting a divorce?\u201d \u201cYou,\u201d I told him. \u201cOr rather, I am.\u201d Zack sat down heavily,&#8230;<\/p>\n<p class=\"more-link-wrap\"><a href=\"https:\/\/newsx48.info\/?p=15412\" class=\"more-link\">Read More<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &ldquo;&rdquo;<\/span> &raquo;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/newsx48.info\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15412"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/newsx48.info\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/newsx48.info\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/newsx48.info\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/newsx48.info\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=15412"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/newsx48.info\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15412\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":15413,"href":"https:\/\/newsx48.info\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15412\/revisions\/15413"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/newsx48.info\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=15412"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/newsx48.info\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=15412"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/newsx48.info\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=15412"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}