. Wanting a photo of late husband in something like this, alongside other late family members would be entirely appropriate. But holding a photo, having the photo on the main table etc is just… no.My dad died suddenly 10 years ago and my step-mom and I both took it really hard. If my step-mom ever marries again, I would find it very strange if she insisted on having my dad’s picture there, the way OP’s fiancée is requesting. I don’t think OP’s fiancée is ready. Maybe she feels guilty for moving on and this somehow relieves her guilt?Widow here! I think this person has way more work to do on their grief journey before they’re ready for a new relationship, let alone a new marriage.I became a widow at 36. She aint ready. NTA. I suggest some therapy for her and both of you (like pre-marriage stuff).She’s still grieving a dead husband this outwardly, she is not ready. If it were a “Hey do you think we could do a memorial board with photos of family that cant make it because they’re not here? And would it be okay to put photo up to respect his memory too?” That’d be different, as its not just the dead husband being remembered. But to be this way? She needs greif counseling.Marriage is full of surprises, so it’s crucial to have honest conversations about key aspects of your past before tying the knot. This way, you won’t be caught off guard by unexpected secrets later on. Open dialogue helps build trust and understanding from the start.